Inside of every person reading this is a special light, a special knowledge, the true “I”. We sometimes get a glimpse of that inner light when the world is still, but then we grab onto a thought and let that thought take us away from being centred, being balanced. Why do we let these thoughts steal our peace, and how can we hold on to it longer?
One of the first thieves to steal our peace is spending our time thinking about what others are thinking of us. Did what I said sound stupid? Do these clothes make me look fat? Does my son’s teacher think I am lazy? Do the neighbours think my yard is a mess? What we are really afraid of is that someone out there is going to take away our happiness, that someone will steal our peace. Nobody can take you peace from you, nobody can take away you happiness unless you let them. You however can do a good job of ruining it for yourself by worrying about others judging you.
The next thief that sneaks into our lives is resentment. Blaming others for how we feel is like falling asleep out in the sun and blaming the sun for our sunburn. Whenever we criticize others to make ourselves seem better, blame others for our state of mind, or resent others and believe they somehow have it “better” then us we are giving or own peace away. Psychologists say we criticize in others those qualities we dislike in ourselves. Our dislike is so intense that we reflect the quality on to others or at least are specially bothered by it in people we know. Let go of your resentment, do not be “little”. Learning to accept ourselves and others will help us achieve peace and stay in it longer.
The final thief of peace is self measuring. Do you often walk away from a conversation and start judging your performance? How did this sound to others? Am I good enough, pretty enough, bright enough, smart enough, nice enough, ambitious enough?? Well enough is enough. Measuring yourself will not bring you happiness. You are who you are, and acceptance of your natural beauty and qualities as valuable and worthy is what will bring you self acceptance.
Embrace who you are and let your unique gifts and qualities shine through. What are your special qualities. We love to hear from you just as you are!!